Ah, 2019. A year I will that I will reminisce with my children. I’ll embarrass them when I turn the SiriusXM station to the 2010s channel and sing all the words to Old Town Road and scream Truth Hurts like I’m back at Tin Roof on Demonbreun. I’ll show them the Baby Yoda memes, watch Schitt’s Creek together (ew, David) and hopefully they won’t think that I’m lying when I tell them about the chaos that ensued when Popeye’s debuted their chicken sandwich this year. I’ll tell them about how 2019 consisted of my first big girl business trip, my first 10k, lots of solo travel and the year I really started to do some deep introspection. I don’t know if I’ll call this year enlightening or the beginning of a quarter-life crisis when I tell my kids about it but at this moment I do know that I have learned a lot from 2019.
Here are my top 19 life lessons I learned in 2019:
- Read more. Read for fun, read for knowledge. Read novels, plays, the news (from reputable sources). Once you begin to read, you open your mind to the world around you and cultivate new interests in ways other forms of media do not.
- No one is a mind reader, if you feel strongly about something, express it. Your feelings and emotions are valid and powerful and you deserve to be heard.
- Maybe don’t leave your number for the cute waiter at your usual Mexican spot. He could think this means you want to become a member of his family.
- But maybe leave your number, because his sister will send you free margs and have the waiter tell you it’s because she wants you to be her sister-in-law.
- Your gut is always right. If it’s telling you about a person you’re interested in, an ethical situation at work, or whether or not to buy the shoes, listen to it.
- Patience is a virtue. (Still working on this -please check back in 2020)
- Move your body. Not because your body is wrong or needs to be a different way but because expressing yourself through movement is healthy for your mind just as much as your body. Whether it be running, yoga, a stroll through the park with a coffee a little bit of moving goes a long way.
- Sometimes it’s okay to splurge on those Lululemon leggings or a nice purse.
- You’ll always regret taking a pipe bomb. (FYI: a pipe bomb is a Red Bull with vodka in it that you shotgun)
- Sometimes the things you were interested in as a child and adolescent are the same things that spark joy in you as an adult. Lean into those passions.
- It’s always okay to date yourself. It’s the most important relationship you’ll have.
- Lean into people who have different backgrounds, beliefs, and cultures than you. You will learn so much from getting to know their stories.
- Everyone has a story to share that is important, even you.
- Watch more live theater. Nothing makes me happier than a musical.
- Friends can grow into family. Don’t be afraid to be open and honest with the people closest to you.
- Nothing good happens after 1am. Just go home.
- On that note, going out and getting drunk is not as fulfilling as having deep meaningful conversations with friends.
- Don’t throw up in an Uber. It’s an expensive mistake.
- Even if all you accomplish some days is waking up and breathing, that’s okay and something to celebrate. Everyone has their own struggles (that you may know nothing about so be kind) and recovers in their own ways.
2019 was filled with high highs and low lows. Even if it wasn’t always pretty and perfect it was raw and real and has set me up for what I think will be a new decade filled with growth and following my passions.